Give A Smile, Get A Smile

There’s probably some scientific evidence to back this up somewhere.

If you smile at someone with a genuine, heartfelt smile – they will smile back.

It works 9 times out of 10. I don’t know if it’s an inborn trait or cultural conditioning. I know there are people out there a lot smarter than me who can answer all the questions about “why” this works. All I have to go on is my daily anecdotal experience.

Oh…and I should mention here – it seems to work with frowns as well.

Which Is More Fair?

Here’s another difference between whiners and winners.

A whiner will demand more equality.

A winner will earn more equity.

The feeling that life’s not fair is more of an excuse than a reason. Some folks want to be treated like everyone else or afforded the same opportunity as everyone else…except they don’t want to have to put the same amount of work into it.

I’m not talking about things like honor, respect, kindness, and dignity. Every person should be treated well.

A Leader’s Job Security

Problems are job security for leaders.

If there aren’t any problems to solve then there really isn’t a need for leaders. If everything was easy, leaders wouldn’t be essential.

Watch what happens when those around you encounter problems. Each of us face a temptation to do one of the following:

Martin Luther King, Jr Said…

…the following…

All men are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality.

Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.

Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.

Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted.

I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. That is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.

I submit that an individual who breaks a law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for the law.

All By Yourself

It’s easy to step into a new position and immediately think about all of the things YOU have to do. This is because YOU want to do what needs to be done and YOU want to do it well.

But doing can sometimes get in the way of leading.

If you do everything by yourself, you’re not a leader, you’re a worker.

One Less Option

I pulled into the drive thru line at Starbucks this morning. Nothing odd about that except for the sudden realization I had left my wallet at home.

I don’t usually forget that.

Now when I say wallet, what I mean is the small, money clip with the pocket for credit cards that I carry in my front pocket. I gave up carrying the overstuffed, folded, leather wallet (see picture) in my back pocket a long time ago. Too many back issues.

Whatever it is you carry, the point here is that I didn’t have any money (the foldable kind). The silver lining to this part of the story is I was able to scrounge some coins out of the middle console for a cup of coffee.

Once I realized that I had forgotten my wallet (once again…not really a wallet and not something I do often…just to be clear), I quickly went through what my day was going to look like without it. I considered my schedule and had to think what I couldn’t do without an ID, cash, credit cards, etc.

New Word: Critischism

Sometimes I make up new words. This one is a combination of two words that already have a place in the dictionary.

Criticism: the act of passing judgment as to the merits of anything.

combined with…

Schism: division or disunion, esp. into mutually opposed parties.

Simply put, critischism is when your opinion causes division instead of discussion.

We see critischism at work in politics, religious circles, education, work environments, and personal relationships.

A Mistake Is An Opportunity

Let’s be honest – we all make mistakes.

Once you get past that (or embrace it and own it), there’s something good that can happen here.

Mistakes create opportunities.

Opportunities to laugh.
Opportunities to learn.
Opportunities to admit it.
Opportunities to make a change.
Opportunities to grow…smarter, wiser, better, ________er!

It’s really not about the mistake as much as it’s about your reaction and others reaction to it.