Got A Minute #4: S.M.I.L.E.

Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval write the following in their book, The Power of Nice,

A Yale University School of Management study found that cheerfulness and warmth spread far more quickly through an office than irritability and depression. The best way to spread these good feelings? With a big toothy smile, the most contagious gesture of all.

There’s something powerful about a smile.

I’ve even created an acrostic for the word smile: Small Movement In Lip Encouragement!

If you’ve got a minute, then hit play to find out this week’s tip to increase your influence.

Got A Minute? #4 – S.M.I.L.E.

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Five Ways We Choose To Control Criticism

Let’s start this post off with a little dose of reality: every person gets criticized.

Just let that simmer for a moment. Every…person…gets…criticized. Once you understand that, once you realize that you are included in this group known as “every person,” it may help you to deal with criticism properly when it comes your way.

I realize the title of this post is deceiving. You cannot choose who criticizes you or what people criticize you about. You don’t have any control over when and where criticism occurs. If that’s where you spend all of your energy, then you’re going to run out of energy quickly. The only thing you have control over is your response to criticism. You get to make some choices. You get to decide how you will handle criticism rather than allowing the criticism to handle you.

Your world is full of people who have a different opinion, a different approach, and a different perspective than your own. That’s a good thing…right up until the moment when they feel empowered to share how their opinion is wiser than yours, their approach is better than yours, or their perspective is more valuable than yours. Or at the very least, they may just point out where you’re wrong without ever offering why they might be right.

Is Your Leadership More Like A Locomotive Or The Loco-motion?

“Just because you’re at the front of the line, it doesn’t mean you’re the leader.”
-Author Unknown

We’ve all seen a locomotive. It typically sits at the front of a long line of railroad cars. The locomotive is crucial because it has all the power. That power is used to pull all of the other cars down the track. When this happens, we call it a train.

You may or may not be familiar with “The Loco-motion.” The Loco-motion is a dance. But before it was a dance it was a song. According to Wikipedia…

“The Loco-Motion” is a 1962 pop song written by American songwriters Gerry Goffin and Carole King. The song is notable for appearing in the American Top 5 three times – each time in a different decade: for Little Eva in 1962 (U.S. #1); for Grand Funk Railroad in 1974 (U.S. #1); and for Kylie Minogue in 1988 (U.S. #3).

Here is a YouTube video of the song being performed by Grand Funk Railroad. 70′s Warning!: There’s a reason why these guys use the words grand and funk in their name.

The Secret To LIN-SPIRATIONAL Leadership

Jeremy Lin has captured the attention of the sports world in dramatic fashion. Some are comparing the phenomenon to the media frenzy that surrounded Tim Tebow during the heart of the NFL season. But apart from both of them being great human beings who are well-spoken in their Christian faith – these are different stories.

Lin plays for the New York Knicks as a back-up point guard. Well…actually, the back-up part ended on February 4, 2012. Lin came off the bench in a game against the New Jersey Nets and ended with 25 points, 5 rebounds, and 7 assists. Plus, the Knicks won. The next game, Lin started.

I Trust You…First

In order to be trusted, one must be trustworthy. This means you and I have to be the kind of person that’s worth trusting.

One thing you can do to get the trust train moving in the right direction is by offering trust toward the other person on the front end.

There is something within human nature that responds positively to positive input. So if someone tells you, “I trust you,” there is something that clicks inside of us that makes us more likely to trust that person. There’s an inner reciprocation. Of course, it works the opposite way as well. Tell someone, “I don’t trust you,” and I’m pretty sure that person will lean toward not trusting you either.

If you are trying to instill a culture of trust within your group or organization, by all means, be a trustworthy person. But you may also want to start trusting others and let them know about it. Your example may be the very thing that sets the tone.

This same phenomenon occurs when you tell someone you believe in them or you depend on them or you need them.

People may not know what trust or belief looks like until you model what it looks like.

Consistency Gives Self-Discipline It’s Power

//NOTE: The following is excerpted from my latest book, Leadership Starts With You.

The hardest part of being self-disciplined is it’s so every day.

The key to self-discipline’s power is consistency. It’s doing what’s required over and over in a way that leads to depth, improvement, growth, and meaning. When you lead yourself well you make promises that have an effect on your everyday life. Doing the necessary work (discipline) on a daily basis requires consistency.

You can’t cram for self-discipline. When I was a student working on my undergrad degree in Communications I would often put off the big papers until the last minute. Two or three days before they were due, I would quarantine myself into the basement of the library with a small supply of snacks and copious amounts of caffeine, usually in the form of Mountain Dew. Then I would crank out the paper. Sometimes I would do well on the paper, sometimes not. While it’s possible to get a paper done this way, it’s not the best way.

Video: Got A Minute? #2

You greet people everyday. You say “hi” in all sorts of ways.

In this edition of Got A Minute? I offer one strategy that can dramatically change the tone of your conversations – and it starts with your greeting.

Go ahead and hit play. It’s only a minute long. I bet you’ve got that much time to improve your influence.

Got A Minute? #2 – Compliment Before The Question

Got A Minute #2 from tim milburn on Vimeo.